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Within each of us lies the ability to discern what is right for us, and what isn’t. I’m not talking about a code of morals and ethics or what processes we’ve picked up to aid in decision making (pros and cons lists anyone?) 

I’m talking about our intuition. Our built in blueprint and satellite mapping system that comes straight from our souls, not our minds. And herein lies the problem. 

All Mind, All the Time

For most of us, we’re taught from an early age to obey our minds. Rational, logical thought above all else! And for many things we encounter in the day to day, using our minds makes complete sense. 

From looking out the window and deciding not to go for a run because it’s currently hailing to being able to look at the food in our refrigerator and mentally put together a meal for dinnertime, our minds excel at making sense of what already exists in the physical world. 

When it comes to ambiguous decisions, like where to live, whether or not to get into a relationship with someone, or if now is the right time to change careers, we can have an excruciatingly difficult time coming to a decision no matter how much data, number crunching, pros and cons lists, and research we undertake. 

The Answers Don’t Live in Your Mind, They Live in Your Body

The biggest reason we have such a difficult time with decisions like these is that we approach them from the mind exclusively when in reality, there is a huge heart and soul component to them that defies logic and rationality at times. 

Somewhere within ourselves we know this, yet it’s hard to simply push aside decades of mind based conditioning and allow ourselves to run wild with the callings of our soul. 

This is why, despite everything looking great on paper or having done everything “the right way” according to society’s standards, we feel a sense of disappointment or discontentment with the results of our mind-based decisions. 

How to Listen to Your Soul 

If you’re looking at making some major change(s) in your life, it’s key to invite your soul to the decision making party. 

(One of the main aspects I love about Human Design is that it focuses on the body as the decision making tool and our minds as the project manager that comes on board post-decision to handle all the physical world details.)

If you’ve been living anywhere but under a rock, you’ll know how difficult it can be to get everyone and anyone’s messages and opinions out of your brain. 

If you feel like you’ve lost the connection to your soul to the point your intuition could show up outside your window with a karaoke machine set to Guns N Roses Greatest Hits and you would be none the wiser, here are three ways to start the reconnection process: 

Even if it’s a completely different topic than the one you’re currently dealing with there will be aspects that reinforce the need to rely on the mind above all else. And if the internet has taught us anything it’s that people love to anoint themselves as experts on topics they know less than 1% about. 

What to do instead? Draw, go for a walk, dance or move intuitively, create something, bake something, write, enjoy the quiet with a cup or four of coffee or tea. Use the time not spent online to connect with your body. How does it want to move? How does your creativity want to be expressed? Where does it feel tense or heavy? Start getting familiar with how your body feels and what nudges it sends you about what would feel good. Those nudges are your internal soul-guidance system speaking to you. 

Step 2: Love It, Hate It

Try this exercise. Grab some paper, cut it into strips and write down things you know you would love to do and things you absolutely have zero desire to do. Fold these up, put them in a bowl, mug, hat, etc. Take a few minutes, close your eyes and take some deep breaths to quiet your mind down. Now, pull out one of your slips of paper and read it. 

How does your body respond? Does it feel light? Heavy? Do you pull back or feel yourself move forward? Do you feel excited? Depressed? 

Our intuition can speak to us in a variety of ways, and this exercise can help you start to understand your body’s natural cues so you can look out for them when presented with a decision.  

Step 3: Clean up your diet.

Intuition is subtle if we’re not faced with an immediate danger. If your body is overburdened with a steady diet of pino grigio, too much pizza, and half a bag of Oreos per day, it’s not going to feel good. And those not-so-good feelings can make it hard to feel the physical cues your soul is sending you. 

This isn’t about having the perfect diet, or only eating “clean”. (Sometimes you just need a cinnamon roll for mental health purposes.) This is about giving your body the fuel it runs best on so it doesn’t feel sluggish, painful, fuzzy, or shut down. This allows you to get clearer signals and to know when a feeling is actually your intuition and not cheesecake-related stomach tremors. 

Intuition Is YOUR soul’s way of communicating with you, so screw what everybody else thinks.

Many people are under the impression that intuition is some woo BS. It’s not. 

We’ve been taught that because if we listened to ourselves then we wouldn’t listen to others. Especially not the marketing departments of mega-conglomerates trying to sell us stuff or the CEOs of companies who think 60 hour work weeks are 100% necessary for success and wealth.

Listening to yourself is the KEY to living the best life for YOU.

By reconnecting to your soul, you’re reconnecting to the purest most “you” form of you that exists. We are not all here for the same reasons or to accomplish the same things. Mind-based conditioning has us believing the opposite, to the detriment of ourselves.

Your path will not look like others, and they may think you’re crazy for making a decision that doesn’t look good on paper. It’s only by being willing to make those decisions however, that we learn not only to hear our intuition, but to trust it as well. 

Your soul knows the way. I promise. 

XOXO,

Elena